And now, a great guest entry from Ellen on how to not make things tougher on a friend who is unemployed and looking for a job. Ellen?
Say “how are you?” just as you would with any other person, then let him bring it into the conversation. As with any life adversity, sometimes people want to…
"Have you found a job already?" is probably the question I hate the most right now. It does give the person being questioned (me, in this example) the feeling of “oh, I’m expected to have one by now? It’s wrong that I don’t? I’m sorry for disappointing you, my family, and the rest of the world?”
There are better ways to ask about a person’s well-being (“how are you? what have you been up to lately?”) that won’t make you sound like a condescending bitch that needs to get off your high horse because really what I do with my life is none of your business thank you very much.